HT Murray

A couple days ago gatorgrrrl made a post about the new Facebook group, "Jensen and Jared Deserve Respect," which is basically a group for people who are against slash of all types.

I'm not going to link that asshattery. I'm sure you can find it if you really want to. When I heard about it, I think my comment was that there was bound to be groups like that out there, but I'd probably unfriend anyone on my list who joined it.

Well, yesterday one of my friends did become of a fan.

I haven't defriended her. Believe me, I want to. But the thing is, I think she's a genuinely good person. She knows I write slash AND wincest, and she's always been nice to me, to my virtual face, ya know? And I guess it would be awfully hypocritical of me to tout free love, tolerance, and acceptance if I'm not going to practice it as well. I guess it's definitely a WWJD scenario.

I don't always DWJD, but in this case, I will.

Which brings me to my major point of contention-- the whole idea behind Facebook groups. From what I see, these groups do nothing and consist of basically an opinion that people get behind or don't get behind. My problem is, it's so easy to just click on something and tell the whole world that you hold a certain opinion or take a certain stance, but you don't usually have to own up to it afterward. Half my friends joined the "I don't care about your farm, your fish, blah, blah, blah, group" and the other half were hurt that no one cares about them when online games are a huge part of their lives, for whatever reason.(A few have medical problems and don't get out of the house much.) Like I said in my Facebook, it's one thing to hide all those apps from your home page, it's quite another to broadcast to everyone that you don't care about what they're doing. And because the groups don't ever actually do anything except wave a banner for a day or two while it makes the Facebook rounds, people think it doesn't matter which ones they join. But why, if you wouldn't say something directly to someone's face, would you join a group that basically plasters the sentiment all over their Facebook pages?

I blocked Farmville on Facebook. My mother has COPD and lives on disability. Farmville is her job. My cousin Casey has CF and spends more time on the computer than a kid his age who can do more physical activity. His mom lets him have a Facebook and play Farmville but makes it so only his friends can see him. If all of his friends were to join the Facebook Group, "I don't care about your Farm, your Fish, blah, blah, blah," how would that make him feel?

People are allowed to have opinions. People should have opinions. But Facebook groups just seem like a way for cowards to seek company in numbers and say things they know will hurt someone without being accountable. Anyone can point, click, and run off at the virtual mouth. How about just telling me what you think to my face? After all, it is Facebook right? Not, talk-about-you-behind-your-back-on-your-own-homepage-book.

This is quick, as I'm at work, but this pissed me off.

I came back from lunch and found that I'd received an invitation to a community. bitchery. I'd only been at lunch half an hour and had just checked my email before I left, so the invite was less than half an hour old.

It didn't sound like my kind of comm, but just like the last time I received a weird invite, I scoured the list for my friends, and found two, so I considered joining. (Incidentally the same two or three friends that were on the last invite to the last community thesovereignty, I think.)

Anyway, so I went to accept the invitation, and it was gone. There's a huge post in the comm that says, "Oops, if you got an invite, but it's gone, that's because we invited too many people and had to delete some."

Huh. So, the only reason I'd ever have joined in the first place was because a)I was invited and b)I had a couple friends in it.

Now, I find the invite is just spam? Well, that takes all the novelty out of it. I replied in their little thread under the post about disappearing invites, and there were two or three comments about, "Oooh, my invite disappeared but this sounds awesome, can I still join?" And I posted that I wasn't sure that sat well with me that an invite that was less than an hour old was already deleted to make room for more. I got a reply from the person who invited me. I did not know her. She said she was sorry, but there are four mods, and they all invited too many people. She hoped I would still join.

I went back to work and pondered, because really that didn't sit well with me, and I kinda made up my mind to reply and tell her, no thank you. I don't like the idea of spam invitations, but my comment was DELETED along with the other comments on the post. Either that or the entire post was deleted and they posted another one. I don't know. I'm guessing someone else called them on the "Way to make people feel welcome by admitting to them that they're only spam to you," and they deleted all the comments.

Gotta say, I won't be joining that comm ever, and I'm thinking about leaving the other one I just joined, since it seems they're using the same spam list to invite from.

Just... grrrrr.

I was having a nice, zen day, too. I should've learned my lesson about accepting invitations to communities I never heard of. Last time, I ended up in a Jensen bashing comm that made me cry. LOL. I'm such a big baby. How do I get myself into these messes?

There's a J and J Photo Op for sale on ebay.

Current sale price... $562.75.

Tell me Creation doesn't have a license to charge whatever it wants for these things. It makes me ill, and the more I see it, the more I know I won't be doing another one ever again, not even for Misha. Maybe a movie will shoot somewhere nearby and Misha will be cast, and I can go stalk him for free. LOL.

Oh, and some perspective...

Since the plant was closed for the last two weeks in December, and they only let us use vacation time for the first one, the paycheck I just got was for the 8 hours of paid vacation on January 1 only. It was a little over $35.00 after they took out taxes, 401k and insurance. And that's the biggest check I saw. Most of my coworkers got checks for less than a dollar.