Friends Cut...
Mar. 9th, 2009 04:00 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
ht_murrayI did a semi-major friends cut.
Actually, I set out to do a major friends cut, not because I dislike anyone, but just because fandom is bringing me down. Anyway, it turns out, there really aren't that many people on my flist who even post anything. Which is a little weird. I suppose, to be fair, I should cut all those lurker journals, but having once been a lurker myself, I can't bring myself to do it. So, I suppose the ones I actually ended up cutting are going to take it personally.
So, here's the thing. We all know I had a pretty good blowout with someone else in fandom not too long ago. And I've pretty much been going under the assumption that we could have mutual animosity and not involve our mutual friends, but someone still posted something which I consider grudgery in their facebook about me. The saddest part about it is, I was not surprised. I don't know why I expected better of this person or people in general, but I really shouldn't.
Anyway, I decided I really need to trim the fat. There are still a few of you on my friends list who are also friends with this other person, and I honestly believe you're bigger people than this other person was, and I consider you good friends. However, if you believe I was totally outside my rights and bounds to say what I did and find yourself rolling your eyes at me, then by all means defriend me. I don't take any of it back. I call BS when I see it. I even call myself on it. I'm not going to let things slide. That's just not me. I'm not here to fan anyone's ego or blow smoke (haha bad pun) up anyone's skirt because I'm afraid of hurting someone's feelings.
As for the rest. Honestly, if I defriended you, it's because we never talk, or if we do, it's some kind of debate. I'm all for people having different opinions from my own, but it's wearing on me to have to debate everything. It makes me honestly not want to think, or makes me rethink so many times there's no room for creative NEW ideas. Just rehashing and head bashing, and none of it's any fun.
Some of us have absolutely nothing in common except that we sometimes watch the same show. It's one of many shows for a lot of you. It's my only one. I obviously have very little else to contribute to your LJ experience. I'm not sure why you kept me to begin with. A few of you, in retrospect, I don't remember why we were friends to begin with. Most likely you friended me, and I friended back and discovered we have nothing in common at all. I'm sorry. It's not personal. I just don't feel comfortable scrolling past all your posts because I have nothing constructive to say. Some of you I probably kept on longer than I should have because you've said nice things to me or about me and made me feel good at a time when I really wasn't doing myself the favor of having anything nice to say about me. I want to be able to return the favor, but as you have heard me say, I can't fan anyone's ego just for the sake of doing so. I kept waiting for the feeling to be mutual. I wanted it to be mutual... but it isn't. I just don't feel like we're even on the same planet most of the time, and that's probably because I'm crazy, batshit, or a drama queen. I don't know. It's definitely me, though. For some reason, some people just rub me the wrong way. I'm sure you rub plenty of other people just right. So, if you're hurt by my defriending, it's my problem. Not yours. How's that for cliche? I don't honestly know how to cut ties without someone feeling hurt, but lately, I don't even want to log on for all the stuff that's rubbing me the wrong way or that I don't feel within my rights to comment on or that I know will turn into major drama if I so much as suggest that I don't agree.
Hate me, or whatever. I'm fine with that.
On a final note, there's been a lot of posting of personal pictures of the boys lately. I guess I've never stated before that I have a policy against that. So, now I'm stating it. If you must post personal pictures please put them all behind a cut. I'm going back on hiatus now. I'm checking my email and friends list about once or twice day, depending on if I'm at work or not. Otherwise, my computer is off. Provided I don't get anymore grudgey facebook notifications, I hope to stay on hiatus until at least Thursday. But I'm actually having to poke myself into logging on lately. So, it could be longer.
In closing, and on a completely random note. I love Dean Winchester. I love him more with every single episode. He makes me happy.
Actually, I set out to do a major friends cut, not because I dislike anyone, but just because fandom is bringing me down. Anyway, it turns out, there really aren't that many people on my flist who even post anything. Which is a little weird. I suppose, to be fair, I should cut all those lurker journals, but having once been a lurker myself, I can't bring myself to do it. So, I suppose the ones I actually ended up cutting are going to take it personally.
So, here's the thing. We all know I had a pretty good blowout with someone else in fandom not too long ago. And I've pretty much been going under the assumption that we could have mutual animosity and not involve our mutual friends, but someone still posted something which I consider grudgery in their facebook about me. The saddest part about it is, I was not surprised. I don't know why I expected better of this person or people in general, but I really shouldn't.
Anyway, I decided I really need to trim the fat. There are still a few of you on my friends list who are also friends with this other person, and I honestly believe you're bigger people than this other person was, and I consider you good friends. However, if you believe I was totally outside my rights and bounds to say what I did and find yourself rolling your eyes at me, then by all means defriend me. I don't take any of it back. I call BS when I see it. I even call myself on it. I'm not going to let things slide. That's just not me. I'm not here to fan anyone's ego or blow smoke (haha bad pun) up anyone's skirt because I'm afraid of hurting someone's feelings.
As for the rest. Honestly, if I defriended you, it's because we never talk, or if we do, it's some kind of debate. I'm all for people having different opinions from my own, but it's wearing on me to have to debate everything. It makes me honestly not want to think, or makes me rethink so many times there's no room for creative NEW ideas. Just rehashing and head bashing, and none of it's any fun.
Some of us have absolutely nothing in common except that we sometimes watch the same show. It's one of many shows for a lot of you. It's my only one. I obviously have very little else to contribute to your LJ experience. I'm not sure why you kept me to begin with. A few of you, in retrospect, I don't remember why we were friends to begin with. Most likely you friended me, and I friended back and discovered we have nothing in common at all. I'm sorry. It's not personal. I just don't feel comfortable scrolling past all your posts because I have nothing constructive to say. Some of you I probably kept on longer than I should have because you've said nice things to me or about me and made me feel good at a time when I really wasn't doing myself the favor of having anything nice to say about me. I want to be able to return the favor, but as you have heard me say, I can't fan anyone's ego just for the sake of doing so. I kept waiting for the feeling to be mutual. I wanted it to be mutual... but it isn't. I just don't feel like we're even on the same planet most of the time, and that's probably because I'm crazy, batshit, or a drama queen. I don't know. It's definitely me, though. For some reason, some people just rub me the wrong way. I'm sure you rub plenty of other people just right. So, if you're hurt by my defriending, it's my problem. Not yours. How's that for cliche? I don't honestly know how to cut ties without someone feeling hurt, but lately, I don't even want to log on for all the stuff that's rubbing me the wrong way or that I don't feel within my rights to comment on or that I know will turn into major drama if I so much as suggest that I don't agree.
Hate me, or whatever. I'm fine with that.
On a final note, there's been a lot of posting of personal pictures of the boys lately. I guess I've never stated before that I have a policy against that. So, now I'm stating it. If you must post personal pictures please put them all behind a cut. I'm going back on hiatus now. I'm checking my email and friends list about once or twice day, depending on if I'm at work or not. Otherwise, my computer is off. Provided I don't get anymore grudgey facebook notifications, I hope to stay on hiatus until at least Thursday. But I'm actually having to poke myself into logging on lately. So, it could be longer.
In closing, and on a completely random note. I love Dean Winchester. I love him more with every single episode. He makes me happy.
